Filled with tips, techniques and practical strategies that will arm readers with not only permission to decline, but plenty of ammunition for doing so. 150,000 first printing.How to say no without being an a**hole, from the New York Times bestselling author of The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ckAre you burnt out from taking on more than you can handle or accepting less than you deserve? Tired of giving in instead of sticking up for yourself? Sick of saying yes all the time? You're gonna love F*CK NO!No is an acceptable answer, and it's time to start using it. Whether you're a People-Pleaser, Overachiever, Pushover, or have serious FOMO, bestselling "anti-guru" Sarah Knight helps you say what you really mean without being really mean--or burning out for fear of missing out.Life is so much better when you say no with confidence--and without guilt, fear, or regret. F*ck No! delivers practical strategies that give you the power to decline, and concrete examples that put the words right into your mouth. You'll discover: The joy of no No-Tips for all occasions How to set boundaries Fill-in-the-blank F*ckNotes The No-and-Switch, the Power No--and how to take no for an answer yourself And much more!Praise for Sarah Knight and the No F*cks Given Guides"Self-help to swear by." -- Boston Globe"Genius." -- Vogue"Hilarious, irreverent, and no-nonsense." -- BustleTable of ContentsWhat the world needs now is no, sweet no 3 (14) I no whereof I speak 7 (6) Turning the status quo into status: no 13 (4) I IT'S A YES-OR-NO QUESTION: Deciding which answer is best for you 17 (78) No your enemy 20 (75) The Yes-Men cometh 22 (12) People-Pleasers, Overachievers, FOMO'ers, and Pushovers 23 (4) Why do I say yes all the goddamn time? (A quiz) 27 (5) The Why Yes/When No Method 32 (1) Feat. Things that are more tactless than saying no 33 (1) Different nopes for different folks 34 (8) Hard No, No-for-Now, Pro No, No-and-Switch 34 (2) No Tip: Be explicit 36 (1) Oh, I thought I responded to that already 37 (1) No Tip: It's just not possible 38 (2) Schick the landing 40 (1) Bonus: the Power No 40 (2) The Gates of Hell No 42 (6) Mental decluttering: a wee tutorial 43 (1) Boundaries 43 (1) Consider the sheep 44 (2) Feat. Personal policies 46 (2) Let's talk about guilt, baby 48 (6) But what if I really can't say no? 54 (6) Must I? Should I? Will I? 55 (4) Do I really have to? (A Fuck No! flowchart) 59 (1) Easy come, easy no 60 (2) Feat. Baby Shower 2010 61 (1) How to say what you really mean without being really mean 62 (6) Sorry, NotSorry 64 (3) Thanks so much! 67 (1) Scenari-nos: a practice round 68 (23) People you don't like 68 (1) No Tip: Get proactive 69 (1) People you barely know 70 (3) Unsolicited offers 73 (1) No Tip: File under "never gonna read it" 74 (1) No Tip: I'll have to think about that 75 (2) Excuse me, do you care about climate change? 77 (3) Semi-solicited offers 80 (1) Can I help you find something? 80 (1) No Tip: Not so fast! 81 (1) Would you like fries with that? 81 (4) No, actually, it's not okay 85 (3) Me, myself, and I 88 (1) Planning and organizing shit 89 (2) The joy of no 91 (4) II BECOMING A NO-IT-ALL: How to say no to pretty much anything 95 (178) Invitations: Fancy fetes, informal gatherings, opening nights, shamanic rituals, and joining the club 97 (37) First: a note on FOMO 99 (3) 3 things to do when you're feeling the FOMO 101 (1) No Tip: Get out of your own head 101 (1) RSVP no regrets 102 (5) Ours is not to reason why 103 (1) Getting that post-no glow 104 (1) For every action there is a reaction 104 (1) It's only natural 105 (1) Straight guilt trippin' 105 (1) We don't negotiate with terrorists 106 (1) Scenari-nos: parties 107 (12) Dinner, costume, viewing, birthday, retirement, etc. 107 (1) No Tip: Add a compliment condiment 107 (2) No Tip: Wordplay is your friend 109 (1) No Tip: Do unto others 110 (2) Short notice 112 (2) Alas! 114 (1) Weddings 114 (3) That's a wrap! 117 (1) Gatherings 118 (1) Feat. Vigils, raves, escape rooms, etc. 118 (1) Pants on fire 119 (3) Feat. Nonspecific reasons you can't make it 120 (1) It's not you, it's me 121 (1) Scenari-nos: dates 122 (4) I know when that hotline bling, that can only mean one thing 124 (1) Matchmaker, Matchmaker, make me a match! 125 (1) Scenari-nos: joining up and in 126 (2) Clubs, teams, committees, and audience participation 126 (2) Shit, something came up! 128 (2) FuckNotes: Invitations Edition 130 (4) Favors: Free advice, small loans, and big asks of all varieties 134 (28) Hey, can you do something for me? 136 (4) Favors people might ask that this book will help you say no to 136 (2) Hey, can you pick something up on your way? 138 (1) Premature rejection 138 (2) Hey, can you spot me some cash? 140 (3) Donations, loans, and investment "opportunities" 141 (2) Hey, can I pick your brain? 143 (9) Can we grab a coffee? 144 (1) Advance no-tice: slow your no roll, make it brief, don't be an asshole, and move on 145 (2) Have you considered Googling it? 147 (1) No Tip: Cut it, paste it, and forget it 147 (1) The no-ment of truth 148 (3) Feat. No Before You Go 151 (1) Is there a doctor in the house? 151 (1) Hey, can I get your opinion on something? 152 (6) Float like a butterfly 154 (1) Sting like a bee 155 (1) Feat. 5 non-judgy, noncommittal phrases for trying times 155 (1) Serial no-ffenders 156 (1) Bye, Felicia 157 (1) I'm going to make you an offer you can refuse 158 (2) Feat. A no for all occasions 159 (1) FuckNotes: Favors Edition 160 (2) Permission & Consent: A mini-chapter, if I may 162 (9) Permission to come aboard, Captain? 164 (3) No Tip: Say no to trick questions 164 (1) Common requests for permission and totally legit responses thereto 165 (2) No means no 167 (4) Feat. A partial list of reasons you re entitled to say no to sex 168 (3) Work & Other Professional Transactions: Bosses, clients, coworkers, customers, and vendors, oh my! 171 (31) Scenari-nos: vendors 173 (1) Phone providers, credit card companies, personal trainers, and doctors 173 (1) Feat. Mister Stussy 174 (1) Scenari-nos: coworkers 174 (5) Filling in, giving rides, bumming smokes, socializing after work, and more 175 (4) Scenari-nos: clients and customers 179 (4) Difficulties, deadlines, special treatment, and more 179 (3) Oh hell no 182 (1) I wouldn't say I was missing it: FOMO at work 183 (2) Up, up, and no way! 185 (3) Scenari-nos: bosses 188 (7) Staying late, taking advantage, asking for things not in your job description, and more 189 (1) No Tip: Scapegoats are the best goats 190 (2) Dr. No 192 (1) What if You're the boss? 193 (2) The power of no-gotiation 195 (4) Feat. The Walkaway 197 (2) FuckNotes: Business Edition 199 (3) Partners: Sex, money, communication, division of labor, and back waxing 202 (23) Scenari-nos: partners 204 (18) He said, she said, they said, we said 204 (4) Feat. Things your significant other may enjoy that yon may not, and that they are free to do without you 208 (1) You da real MVP 209 (2) To-do or not to-do, that is the question 211 (2) Honey, have you seen the tweezers? 213 (1) Hey, while you're up...? 214 (1) Maybe you shouldn't be doing that 215 (2) It's all about the Benjamins (and the nookie) 217 (5) FuckNotes: Partners Edition 222 (3) Family: Parents, siblings, extended family, children, in-laws, and everything they want from you all life long 225 (48) Look Ma, [these are my] no hands! 227 (2) Scenari-nos: in-laws 229 (2) Do I have to say this no? (Or can my partner handle it?) 229 (2) Scenari-nos: kiddos 231 (7) Feat. Things your child may ask you for that you can't, shouldn't, or don't want to give 231 (1) Wwskd 232 (3) Real talk is the new baby talk 235 (1) No, But 235 (3) Scenari-nos: parents and siblings, round one 238 (7) Hosting duties, group gifts, parenting tips, and more 239 (4) Branching out: extended family scenari-nos 243 (1) Feat. Pig roasts, patchouli parties, and your Jet Ski 243 (2) Scenari-nos: parents and siblings, round two 245 (7) Togetherness, inopportune visits, help around the house, and Swedish Death Cleaning 245 (5) Feat. Peace offerings 250 (2) Scenari-nos: parents and siblings, round three 252 (5) Time-sharing, family feuds, bucking tradition, and being yourself 252 (3) No Tip: No, but make it a pictogram 255 (2) FuckNotes: Family Edition 257 (4) Epilogue 261 (12) You can't always get what you want: a parable 262 (11)Acknowledgments 273 (4)Index 277 (12)About the Author 289