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"In this absorbing, clever, and warm book, renowned psychotherapist Philippa Perry tells us what really matters and what behavior it is important to avoid--the vital dos and don'ts of parenting"-- Provided by publisher.

 

Table of Contents

 

Foreword xi

Introduction xiii

Part One Your Parenting Legacy

 

The past comes back to bite us (and our children)

3 (8)

Rupture and repair

11 (5)

Repairing the past

16 (4)

How we talk to ourselves

20 (4)

Good parent/bad parent: the downside of judgment

24 (7)

Part Two Your Child's Environment

 

It's not family structure that matters, it's how we all get along

31 (2)

When parents aren't together

33 (3)

How to make pain bearable

36 (1)

When parents are together

37 (1)

How to argue and how not to argue

38 (9)

Fostering goodwill

47 (9)

Part Three Feelings

 

Learning how to contain feelings

56 (4)

The importance of validating feelings

60 (7)

The danger of disallowing feelings: a case study

67 (6)

Rupture and repair and feelings

73 (1)

Felt with, not dealt with

74 (4)

Monsters under the bed

78 (1)

The importance of accepting every mood

79 (4)

The demand to be happy

83 (4)

Distracting away from feelings

87 (8)

Part Four Laying a Foundation Pregnancy

95 (56)

Sympathetic magic

99 (6)

What's your parent tribe?

105 (4)

The baby and you

109 (1)

Making your birth plan

110 (1)

Debriefing from the birthing experience

111 (2)

The breast crawl

113 (2)

The initial bond

115 (3)

Support: to parent we need to be parented in turn

118 (9)

Attachment theory

127 (5)

Coercive cries

132 (3)

Different hormones, a different you

135 (1)

Loneliness

136 (4)

Postnatal depression

140 (11)

Part Five Conditions for Good Mental Health

 

The bond

151 (1)

The give-and-take, to-and-fro of communication

152 (3)

How dialogue begins

155 (1)

Turn-taking

156 (1)

When dialogue is difficult: diaphobia

157 (5)

The importance of engaged observation

162 (3)

What happens when you're addicted to your phone

165 (1)

We are born with an innate capacity for dialogue

166 (4)

Babies and children are people too

170 (2)

How we train our children to be annoying--and how to break that cycle

172 (3)

Why a child becomes "clingy"

175 (2)

Finding meaning in childcare

177 (1)

Your child's default mood

178 (1)

Sleep

179 (5)

What is sleep nudging?

184 (4)

Helping, not rescuing

188 (3)

Play

191 (10)

Part Six Behavior: All Behavior Is Communication

 

Role models

201 (2)

The winning-and-losing game

203 (4)

Going with what is working in the present rather than what you fantasize may happen in the future

207 (1)

The qualities we need to behave well

208 (5)

If all behavior is communication, what does this or that inconvenient behavior mean?

213 (6)

Investing time positively earlier rather than negatively later

219 (1)

Helping behavior by putting feelings into words

220 (2)

When explanations are unhelpful

222 (5)

How strict should a parent be?

227 (4)

More on tantrums

231 (6)

Whingeing

237 (5)

Parental lying

242 (4)

Children's lies

246 (9)

Boundaries: define yourself and not the child

255 (10)

Setting boundaries with older children and teenagers

265 (4)

Teenagers and young adults

269 (9)

And finally: when we're all grown up

278 (5)

Epilogue 283 (4)

Further Reading/Listening/Watching 287 (6)

Acknowledgments 293 (8)

Index